5.28.2014

Us.

A candid from Memorial Day weekend. I love this one of him.

I think it's about time I tell you about my person. A brilliant human doing this thing called life with me. Several people have asked about our story and I think I put it off for so long because nothing I could ever type would live up to how this man makes me feel.

I met him in junior high and we flirted as much as awkward teenagers knew how to. He would be quite the gentleman and walk me to gym class every day after he'd copy my social studies homework. We'd exchange this awkward one-armed hug before we parted ways. He always held his binder off to the side. He always wore his Adidas sneakers and sported popped collars. Years, separate high schools, different people happened and it wasn't until a random afternoon in late spring I called him up. It was the end of 11th grade and warmer than usual in June. He was outside air drying from his post football practice shower. Whether it was curiosity, boredom, or an impulse, finding his name on my bulky Nokia phone was the best thing I've done. Nearly 7 years later, I'm marrying that nerd boy who pulled at my hair and copied my homework. He is my person and I have never been more sure of anything in my life.

We work because we are a hundred percent ourselves and we accept each other. One Direction often appears in mix CDs, we're health nuts and foodies at the same time. We both have passions for something; my writing and photography, his career and fitness. We both love nothing more than to spend quality time doing everything and nothing. We also know our own flaws and we make a conscious effort not to unload them on one another. We believe in patience and honesty and having conversations instead of letting adverse emotions overcome our words. We give each other grief all the time and joke around and the amount we still flirt hasn't changed a bit. And he has the best arms to snuggle with. The absolute best. I'm an arms and hands kind of girl; good arms are serious business and hands show hard work. His hands are rough and I love every callus. 


What we have is just so easy. It's always been easy with him. He is my oxygen when everything around me often becomes suffocating. He is the most gentle, kind, understanding man I have ever been blessed to meet. His light visibly radiates from his pores. 

Time and time again I have been asked how I knew he's the one. It wasn't some monumental moment where sparrows appeared in the branches of the trees and started to sing as we kissed in a warm embrace with cheesy background music. I knew he was the one when the butterflies didn't go away. I knew he was the one after I talked to him on the phone for 4+ hours as we watched YouTube videos at the same time. I knew it a couple nights ago when we literally could not stop laughing at some obscene thing I did. I knew as I held his head in one hand and a bucket in the other when he was so sick in the hospital as he puked out 2 liters of bile and I knew it on the last loop of the roller coaster we rode 7 times in Disneyland. I knew as I Googled hiccup remedies and tried them for hours because he couldn't stop hiccuping. I know each and every time he pulls the Forrest Gump when he blinks in pictures and when he plays with my hair and when we disagree and when we agree. How do you know ice cream will be delicious or that the moon will be up there in the night sky regardless if it's clear or if it's tucked away behind the clouds. I just know.


I know all the time.

13 comments:

  1. This is so sweet. It makes me happy when people find their loves. Congratulations! This inspires me to tell my "us" story too. Couple questions: which ride at Disneyland and where is your wedding venue?

    www.nestledinnostalgia.com

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    1. Mandy,

      Thank you! I am so glad I have inspired you to share your "us" story. I think it's important to reflect on the little things that made such a big thing in your life.
      To answer your questions:

      -The roller coaster was California Screamin' at California Adventure! It was our favorite ride and we rode it so many times that we were completely desensitized to the twists and turns at the end!

      -We are looking at a venue in Poulsbo, WA. It is quite the dream with the prettiest forest-like background for our ceremony.

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  2. Really, really lovely story Malia! :D As a single lady that has had some absolutely terrible relationships that made me question whether love is actually real, it's refreshing to hear someones REAL love story. Especially one that clearly required work rather than a relationship that seems untangle and unreal.

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    1. Thank you Hilary! :) Love absolutely requires work and it's not just an on and off feeling. Love feels wonderful and love also sometimes feels like shit. But what shouldn't be fleeting is the amount you support each other and can have honest, real conversations. The rest of it is just extra special lovey fluff :) You will find it, and I'm about to be real cliche' right now, but it will come when you aren't looking!

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  3. Thanks for sharing! I love reading love stories (so cliche huh). My husband and I actually met in jr high too and started dating in high school.
    Carlee

    Little Sloth

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    1. That makes me smile to read! It isn't often you find love that is so deeply rooted, it is years upon years in the making. Congratulations on your marriage! I'm a sucker for a good love story myself!

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  4. Aww, that's so cool that you met in junior high. And I love everything you said about "knowing."

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    1. Lydia,

      Thank you! I feel lucky to have him!

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  5. This is incredibly sweet amiga. I wish you both a life filled with happiness!

    xo

    Michaela

    http://michaelajeanblog.com

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    1. Michaela,

      That is so kind of you, thank you! And I wish you the same!

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  6. what a wonderful love you have. thank you for sharing this post so i could read it. my favorite part was that you love one direction together. now that is true love :)

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  7. Just stumbled upon your blog today, and I love it. Such a beautiful love story, congratulations on the upcoming wedding ;)

    sharon @ shasummerwine.

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  8. I love reading stories like this! So happy for you two <3

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